So last year was a different year for me in terms of New Year’s resolutions, making five instead of one. I’m going to continue with that number this year, tweaking things a little.
Resolution 1: Get Better At The Husband And Father Thing
My traditional resolution is still number one for 2015. Last year, I think I said my primary objective to meet this one was just to be as involved in my family’s lives as possible, and to continue in my efforts to put them first in every way. That, I think, is a very good way to continue looking at it. “Family first.” Okay, so there’s a whole lot more to the quote by Funakoshi sensei than just that, but if a man who stands was among the greatest karate masters of the 20th century believed that family should come first, who am I to argue?
And while I think that I’ve gotten better at it over the years, I also think there’s always room for improvement here. As long as I can continue to get better, continue thinking of my family as the reason for why I’m doing something, then I think I should continue to have success. It’s easier some days than others, and sometimes I still get very excited about something and get a little distracted. I just have to remember to find ways to carry my family along in that excitement.
Resolution Number Two: Be Kind.
Simple enough on the surface, I think this year I need to start taking steps to extend this resolution. The trick is to always make an effort to think about where the other person or creature is coming from, and how they see things.
My easy example for this is something I see all the time: just because you’re having an argument with someone doesn’t make them an idiot. Now, they may be an idiot, but always attack the argument, not the person. There is never a good reason for deliberate mental or physical abuse, cruelty. or punishment. And if you’re accidentally unkind to one of your fellow creatures, take steps to correct it. Just as importantly, learn from it.
Extending this further, I need to take more steps to be kind to the environment around me, and therefore to the planet, and the future. I consider myself to be fairly green, over all, but I could do a lot more, seek to minimize or reverse the damage my lifestyle might be doing. The planet can handle a lot, but there are more than 7 billion of us now, and we produce a lot of crap, literally and figuratively. I can produce less.
Resolution Three: Be Polite.
Politeness costs nothing. However you want to think about things, that remains true, and it goes very well with resolution number two.
Resolution For: Be More Well Read.
This replaces last year’s resolution of reading more, because I feel the need for things to be more directed, whether or not I want to track and measure things. I absolutely I read more last year than the year before, overall, but I don’t necessarily believe I’m any more well read.
Once upon a time, in the areas of science fiction and fantasy, at least. I was well read. As a child and teenager, I did little else other than read and watch genre televsion. I devoured all the classics I could get my hands on, which really was only a small piece of the whole, and I read every genre fiction book available in whatever library we lived nearest to, a lot of them more than once. That’s not possible anymore. There’s just too much being published, by the big publishers, medium-size ones, micro publishers, and independent authors. Now, with the Internet, it’s easy to see that I’m not nearly as well read as I once thought I was in those classes. I probably never will be, but I’d like to get better.
I’ve set some specific goals for this year to address this (to me) shortcoming, but those probably deserve a separate post.
Resolution Five: Think More Intelligently
Adjusting this one a little bit too. I’m prone to introspection, and to nostalgia, and to overthinking things. Whether I can train myself to streamline my thoughts processes or not, whether I can train myself to understand things faster or not, this year I intend to learn recognize when I am overthinking, when I’m dwelling too much on something. Yes, I need to think about things carefully, but there comes a point in any program, problem, or conversation when you’ve thought about things enough. And, while our first response isn’t necessarily our best, there are times when we come to the best fairly quickly.
And it’s also time to start thinking bigger. This goes along with my third birthday question: what am I doing to make the world a better place? Time to figure that out and step up my game.
So, there are my resolutions for 2015. Some the same, some slightly twisted.
Goals, well, I have plenty of those too, but they’re more specific, more measurable, more definite. I have a number of things that I want to make a certain amount of progress on doing this year, but most of those are little more private. No one really cares how many pounds lighter I’d like to be, or how far I’d like to get my study of calculus, or French, or Japanese. Some of these things may get mentioned in passing, and I’ll try to make them fun when they come up.
For now, if you’re making resolutions or not, feel free to share, but above all, be well, everyone.by