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    My First Obituary

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    I wrote my first obituary last week. It isn’t very good, but I don’t know how to do better.

    It was for my wife’s uncle, a nice guy whom I didn’t know very well.

    I mean, I used to, sort of. He lived with my wife’s grandparents and for the first few years after we moved here, we saw them a lot. At least weekly and sometimes more often. All three of them were fond of our kids and our kids liked them, too.

    But then Olive died in 2008 and Cam started to go down hill, health wise (Alzheimer’s) and moved into a home not long after. We stopped seeing Stewart just before when Cam moved from one home to another, where we weren’t actually told. Stopped seeing, stopped hearing from, and eventually stopped hearing about.

    Stewart had a major problem with alcohol. He always did, but while his parents were alive he managed to keep a grip on it. As soon as he had no other responsibilities, I think that grip began to slip and he didn’t want any of us to know how he was really doing.

    When he died, at the far-too-young age of 57, he’d been living in a series of crummier and crummier apartments since 2012, or maybe earlier, and we didn’t find out he’d left us for good for two weeks, when the hospital staff where he’d passed finally came up with a more distant relative who led to my wife.

    It’s probably been ten years since I’ve seen Stewart. Maybe a little longer. I don’t really know him anymore, if I ever did. But I couldn’t let the generic, generated, three-sentence obituary stand.

    I just don’t know how to do better for him. The service is tomorrow.

    Stay safe and be well, everyone.

    It is with great sadness that the remaining family of Stewart Cameron Brooks announces his sudden passing on September 29th at the age of 57. Predeceased by his parents Cameron and Olive (née Delill), Brother of Marjorie and Barbara, Stewart is fondly remembered as Uncle to Lesli Schonberg (Lance) and Great Uncle to Erik, Melanie, and Amanda. Active with the local Legion for many years, an enthusiastic outdoorsman, known for a ready smile and a happy attitude, he will be missed by friends and family.

    Aquamation has taken place in preparation for interment service at Bethany Cemetery (2050 County Rd 9, Napanee) on Tuesday November 17 at 1 pm. All are welcome to attend.

    Memorial donations may be made in Stewart’s name to KFLA Addictions and Mental Health Services or the Heart and Stroke Foundation. To plant a tree in memory of Stewart Brooks please visit our Tribute Store.

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