• Announcement,  Life

    Anniversaries are an Annual Thing – That’s Sort of the Point

    by I don’t think I posted about it last year, but we had our 25th wedding anniversary during COVID. I know we’re far from the only ones to have much-muted milestones during the pandemic, but even then we figured it would be a while before we came out the other side. Well, here it is our 26th anniversary, and we’re not out to that other side yet. It might still be a while in coming, but that’s a subject for another time. For now, it’s worth noting that 26 years ago today, in seven hours or so, our wedding ceremony started. Lots of stuff since then and lots more to…

  • Life

    Earth Day 2021

    by Happy Earth day to you! Happy Earth day to you! Happy Earth day to you-uuuuu! Happy Earth day to you! Today was Earth Day. If you didn’t do it last weekend and you didn’t do it today, get outside this weekend and do something nice for the environment you live in. Pick up some garbage you didn’t put there. Plant a tree. Get some stuff in the ground that pollinators will like. Put up some bird houses, bat houses (bats eat mosquitoes by the hundred; you should love them), or butterfly houses. Any of those. All of those. Other things that will put more oxygen out of the air…

  • Life

    Time for a Social Media Break

    by We’re all sick of the pandemic, the rotating restrictions, the changing rules, the government incompetence. Social media is an easy way to distract from that, and it’s not necessarily a bad thing, but when you remember that ever social media platform’s primary need is to keep you on it for as long as possible (because you’re the product and never forget that), you should remind yourself to take a look at your social media habits. I’ve caught myself doomscrolling and I’ve caught myself hatescrolling and I’ve caught myself trying to modify the ad algorithms on FB by searching for specific things to click on, hiding or reporting others, and…

  • Fiction,  Life

    In the Immortal Words of Admiral Ackbar

    by So there’s this little rant making the rounds on social media complaining about Pepé le Pew being cancelled. I’ve seen it at least a dozen times in the last two days on Facebook. What follows is direct copypasta. I’ve put it in quotes and changed the justification, but here it is in all its… well, not so much glory as word salad. “Listen up Buttercups! As someone who actually grew up watching PePe LePew (and all those “BAD” Saturday morning cartoons), I never saw Pepe as a rapist or promoting rapist culture. HELL I didn’t even know what a rapist was. I WAS A CHILD! Let me impart my…

  • Life,  Pets

    Muffin the Bunny’s Departure

    by There’s nothing to remind us about mortality and the fragility of life that does so as well as the death of a family pet. My youngest daughter adopted two rescue rabbits last summer. She settled them in, built an environment out of her room that was not just bunny-friendly but specifically for bunnies, worked through the bonding process carefully and thoroughly, monitored diets and any tiny potential health item or hazard that was possible to monitor. One of them has a long-term GI issue that will probably always be part of his life. It doesn’t seem like it affects his behaviour most of the time, but sometimes he gets…

  • Life

    Döstädning

    by It’s a word in Swedish that means something like “death cleaning”. I say something like as it seems probable that there are a whole lot of cultural connotations with the word that don’t properly come into English. If they did, I probably wouldn’t feel the need to qualify the two-word translation with the next whole paragraph, and I likely still only have the basic gist of things. My background is half-Scandinavian, but not Swedish. Döstädning is the idea of recognizing your own mortality and doing what you can to lessen the amount of stuff you leave behind for the people you leave behind to deal with. A big chunk…

  • Life,  Parenting

    My Youngest Child is Now a Legal Adult

    by So the 50th birthday is supposed to make you feel old in some ways, yes? It does that for most of us at least a little, I think. At age 50, you look around at your friends and see how old they’re getting and you look at your parents if they’re still with you, and you’re forcibly reminded of your own mortality. You’re getting older. But you know what’s worse? Having your youngest child experience the birthday that makes them a legal adult, and that’s today. Wow. Yeah, now I feel old. Today, I’m letting my mind roll back over all those moments, good and bad. First words, first…

  • Life

    Spam Ahoy!

    by First foray into the spam folder. This #50at50 goal might be easily accomplished but also less interesting than I’d hoped. I have two primary email accounts, one Gmail which I’ve had for a few years and channel a couple of things to, and one Hotmail, which I’ve had for longer than I’ve had my children and keep because it’s a point of contact that most family has in an emergency, even the ones I don’t have on social media. So I thought I’d try this first foray into the world of spam looking at the last 24 hours in my spam folders, cutting off at the time I’m writing…

  • Life

    50s Bucket List

    by This is going to be a really, really long post, even longer than yesterday’s, and it will become the basis for a static page as well, so there will always be somewhere to look and keep myself honest about progress here. You may or may not want to read the whole thing in one go. This is sort of paired with yesterday’s post (#50at50) but covers very different ground. The idea of a bucket list isn’t a new one, even for me. I’ve had one since I was about 40, but I haven’t made a lot of progress on it. Some, but not nearly as much as I’d like…

  • Life

    #50at50

    by A half century is apparently a big deal and should probably be marked in some way. There are as many ways to do this as there are people who turn fifty, I expect, but for myself, I want to mark it as a year of personal growth. Aside from being the year where I start to make real progress on the bucket list, as cliché as that might sound these days (and more on that tomorrow), I want to do a lot of little things that add to the world around me and make that world just a little bit better, even if the target of some of those…